@ethridgemackenzie
So...it's not clear what your situation is.
1) Is he posted to a base in NC? (if not in NC, which state)
2) Is his HOR/SLR some other state? (If so, which one)
3) Are you living with him wherever he is posted?
........(or do you live apart in another state?....if so, which one?)
4) Are you working a W-2 job there?
____________*Answers are correct to the best of my knowledge when posted, but should not be considered to be legal or official tax advice.*