That is correct - CA does not recognize common law marriage - you need a new advisor.
If not married as of the last day of the year, then you can only file single or head-of-household if you qualify.
Unfortunately this is not a simple matter of amending because the tax law does not allow changing a joint return after the April 15 due date - the IRS must declare the joint return a "invalid joint" return. This is not a do-it-yourself matter. See this excellent answer by rjs when this came up last year. (The answer was about divorced persons but the procedure is the same for persons never married).
https://ttlc.intuit.com/replies/6972240
**Disclaimer: This post is for discussion purposes only and is NOT tax advice. The author takes no responsibility for the accuracy of any information in this post.**