It will not update my phone number.It tries to send the code to a different number no matter what I do
You need to have it updated by the Intuit security team. Send a request using Recover my Account at this bottom of the link below. It will ask for a copy of your driver's license. It will take about 24 hours to get it done and might take longer if you do on a weekend.
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