You have not told us how old your son is. There is no credit or tax advantage on a federal tax return for saying a child under the age of 12 is disabled. If you still need to pay someone to take care of your son while you work, you can still get the childcare credit even if he is older than 12. If he is older than 19 you may still be able to claim him as a qualifying child even if he is not a full-time student.
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And....state laws vary, so you might find that there is a state credit that helps you out.
For purposes of whether you can claim your child as a dependent, "disabled" means "permanently and totally disabled." Here's the definition of permanently and totally disabled from IRS Publication 501.
Permanently and totally disabled. Your child is permanently and totally disabled if both of the following apply.
But again, this would only apply to someone who is 19 years old or older. If he is under 19 it doesn't matter whether he is disabled or not.