A joint tax return as Married Filing Jointly cannot be filed without your permission.
If filing as Married Filing Separately then the name and Social Security number of the spouse is required by the tax code to be entered on the tax return.
Can you detail how she is trying to use it? She has to enter yours and you hers, if you're filing married but separate returns. The federal return will require it and any state returns will likely require the spouse's SSN also.
You may find some additional help here:
https://www.justice.gov/opcl/overview-privacy-act-1974-2020-edition/ssn
If I am filing a separate return why do I have to list my spouse’s information on my return?
Even if you file separate returns (the worst way to file) you each have to list each other's SSN's and some other information on your own tax return. The IRS can then cross check to make sure you are not "double dipping" for itemized deductions, dependents, etc.
If you are in a community property state, there is more information that will be needed.
Community property states: AZ, CA, ID, LA, NV, NM, TX, WA, WI
https://ttlc.intuit.com/questions/1901162-married-filing-separately-in-community-property-states
https://turbotax.intuit.com/tax-tips/marriage/five-tax-tips-for-community-property-states/L4jG7cq7Z
for married filing separately she must have your SSN and yo must have hers and they must be included on the other spouse's return. The IRS uses the SSNs to check to see that both taxpayers either use d the standard deduction or itemized deductions - no double dipping. failure to follow the rules will result in getting iRS notices and possibly tax bills.
Let me answer differently.
You can't file jointly unless you agree. That seems unlikely here. So you both need to file as married filing separately.
If spouse A does not include spouse B's SSN, spouse A can't e-file. They have to file by mail and attach a written statement explaining that they do not have their spouse's SSN, and they give the IRS as much identifying information about their spouse as they can (name, birthdate, last known address, etc.). This will delay processing and payment of any refund, and could bring additional scrutiny on both spouses.
This applies to you as well, if you file MFS, you need your spouse's SSN or you must file by mail and attach a written explanation.