Tax breaks for care givers. I am caring for my disable veteran wife and lost a lot of time at work. Is there a tax break for care givers?

Your wife cannot be your dependent and there are no tax breaks for care that you provide for her.  

It depends. Even though there are no tax breaks, you might be able to be paid by the state where you live. Check your state resources to see if your state offers compensation for caregiving for family members.