I live in a different school district and County than where I take my daughter what is the reason they ask me for what school district I live in and what county I'm in a complicated situation in a rel

You should list the school district where you live. 

When you live in a state that has a school district tax, it is based on where you live, not whether you have children who go to that school. Even people without children are asked the same question.

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