It depends whether your retirement account is a 401(k) or an IRA.
If it is a 401(k0 then there is no exception to the early withdrawal penalty for the purchase of a home.
If it is an IRA, there is an exception to the penalty of the purchase of a first home but this exception is limited to $10,000. The number of withdrawals or parties is not irrelevant but the exception is limited to $10,000.
Please read this TurboTax Help topic for more distribution.