You have two options:
1) The Veterans Benefits and Transition Act of 2018 gives the spouses of active duty servicemembers the option of filing their state and local tax returns as a resident of the servicemember's military State of Legal Residence (SLR), even if the spouse has no other connection with that state. So you & your husband can file a joint CA return, if you wish.
2) If you prefer, you can file as a resident of your own home state of VA. However VA tax rules are that a VA resident married to a non-resident of VA must file their VA return as Married Filing Separately. See this reference:
https://www.tax.virginia.gov/filing-status