What length of time must I wait to file and if I just mail as oppose to e-file, do I still owe turbo tax so much?
Are you saying your tax return rejected for the date of birth? And you found it was actually wrong at Social Security? Did you try entering the wrong birth date to efile? That may work. I don't know how long it takes the IRS to get the updated info from SS. But I do know if you mail your return it will take a very long time to process mailed returns. Even some efiled returns are taking 6 months or more to send refunds.
Yes you owe the Turbo Tax fees. The fees are to prepare the return whether you efile or print and mail. Efiling is free.
Here's a couple IRS articles. The IRS is still processing 2020 returns. As of June 21, 2022 the IRS is almost done processing 2020 returns, filed in 2021. See,
https://www.irs.gov/newsroom/irs-continues-work-on-inventory-of-tax-returns-original-tax-returns-filed-in-2021-to-be-completed-this-week
And see, https://www.irs.gov/newsroom/irs-operations-during-covid-19-mission-critical-functions-continue
if changing your birthday in TurboTax by three days lets you e-File, that's what you should do.
three days plus or minus your age 59 1/2 can impact your taxes.
three days plus or minus your age 60 is not going to make any difference.