I paid my nj taxes with a direct debit from my bank account but the money was not taken yet, is this normal?

Call IRS e-file Payment Services 24/7 at 888-353-4537 to inquire about your payment

Oh...You are asking about the state tax return payment?

In that case you need contact the NJ department of revenue - https://www.nj.gov/treasury/taxation/contact-phone.shtml