No that is wrong. The state doesn't need to wait to get the efile until the IRS is finished. You do have to efile federal first and be Accepted then the state is transmitted usually right away. When I efiled, I filed both at the same time. Federal was Accepted in about 20 min and state a couple minutes later.
But yes if the federal was rejected the state will also reject. Are you going to print and mail federal? Why did it reject? We might be able to help. If it was for the AGI then try entering 0 for the AGI.
But yes you can ask for a refund for the desktop state efile fee.
Contact Customer Service, type in BILLING ISSUE not Refund.
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