What state are you declaring to be your tax home? It can be the active duty military spouse's tax home, or your tax home if different.
The military member's tax home is clearly shown on their W-2 in box 15, and also on their LES in box 44 as labeled at https://www.dfas.mil/Portals/98/Documents/Military%20Members/Payentitlements/aboutpay/Navy_reading_y...
