Generally I've seen the term "SLR" used when referring to the state of legal residence of the non-military spouse, and HOR used for the military member. Like you said, it's all pandemic. If you ever served, you know how it works. You can go to the MPO and ask 5 different people the same exact question and get 6 different answers. The scary part is, not a one of those answers will necessarily be wrong either.
