Retirement tax questions

Yes, that happens.   Pulling money from a retirement account is an expensive place to get the cash.  If the 401K had been an IRA, you could have avoided the penalty on $10,000 of the withdrawal, but that doesn't work with a 401K.  The entire amount is still taxable though.
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