Retirement tax questions

Thank you so much for the response @macuser_22 , I really appreciate it! 

 

She filed the return of contribution before the 15th, but they didnt execute it until after July 15th. 

I tried to file an extension but saw after the fact that it was rejected due to an error saying we've already filed a return, but I see that may be due to the stimulus payment (hopefuly not identity theft). 

 

Is it still a proper "return of contribution" if I didn't get an official extension and it didn't make the July deadline?

 

The custodian said that they won't generate the 1099-R until January, does that mean I have to file an amended 2019 return in January or can I enter it in myself manually with my filing this year?

 

ugh this is a nightmare, wish we would have just left the money in there. I know next time, but will probably never encounter this situation again...

 

Thanks!