Expenses for sending disabled son to college by car , dependent care expenses

I am sending my disabled son to college by car , I am paying a driver for that@ almost 2500$ per month, 15K-20K yearly.
is this tax deductible?
I also can deduct 5000 as FSA / dependent care expenses for next year , would the driver fees qualify for that?
What is the best way to get a tax deduction here?