It is the "6 months of the year" that is causing issues because we have been divorced for almost 9 years. The ex and new spouse tend to "read into things" so it says what they want it to say. I am trying to gather the legal evidence to show/prove/support they are wrong. They like to "muddy the waters" and cause issues recently (new spouse with control and trust issues with my ex). This is a "them problem" but I got drug into legally.
I was on the HSA as an approved user since we got the account 15 yrs ago, and because the kids and I live over 1000 miles away, for me to pay the bills on behalf of the kids just made sense and our oldest started paying their own bills from the HSA a couple years ago. I am a bookkeeper so have always handled the books and have all the evidence to support "approved medical expenses" which they originally claimed I didn't, so have moved on the taxes being a legal issue because the first attack has failed, so far. We never had an issue until September...new spouse issues started all this. We have only 6 months left until the youngest leaves for college and possibly not a dependent to anyone but would still eligible to use the HSA account as a non-dependent and have their own card to pay for any expenses. This issue is now also causing issues with that youngest going to college because the ex makes too much money to qualify for any grants, aide, etc.
I know the rules and laws but need additional clarification to prove it and get this all dropped and put behind.
Thank you for your response
