the max for a family plan for 2021 is $7,200. it doesn't matter which spouse made the contribution or how it's split between spouses. in addition each spouse that is over 55 can contribute $1,000 to their own HSA.
so your maximum 2021 contribution would be $1000 to your HSA since you have your own a/c and are over 55.
the excess must be withdrawn by the return due date or you will pay a 6% penalty. in additional and earnings on the excess must be withdrawn.
the alternative is to pay the penalty for 2021 and then under contribute in 2022 so that you and your spouse don't exceed the max
yes Turbotax can handle this. if you do not remove the excess form 5329 will show an excess of $3275 .
your spouse's 8889 would indicate family coverage for the whole year
your 8889 would indicate self-only for January through October and family for November and December (because you were covered by your spouse's family plan starting in November)
