No matter what else, the overall family limit is $7300 split between you and your spouse. You can't go over that unless you are over age 50 and use the catch-up provision. How you split the $7300 between you is what I will discuss next.
Your question is very unclear. I will assume the following:
1. You have a self-only HDHP that is HSA-eligible. You also provide dental and vision for your family.
2. Your spouse has a family HDHP that is HSA-eligible.
If this is the case, then your personal limit is $3650, your spouse's personal limit is $7300, and your overall combined limit is also $7300. So if you contribute $3650, then your spouse's maximum is also $3650. If you contributed only $2000, your spouse could contribute $5300. And so on.
