Only the custodial parent can claim the child and dependent care credit. The family court cannot override federal tax law. The court order is telling you to do something that is impossible, and that is not legal under federal tax law. You have to tell your lawyer to get the court order revised so that it conforms to federal tax law. You should get a tax lawyer or other tax professional involved, because apparently your lawyer, the other parent's lawyer, and the judge all don't understand the tax law.
