Deductions & credits

So if my ex filed before me and claimed my son I need to do paper return. 

 

My circumstances:

We share custody - son lives 3 or 4 nights per week with me and same with her.  

I pay her 300 dollars per month child support (does that negate her claiming  50% of support?)

I have the higher AGI

There is nothing in the custody agreement that says who claims him.

 

Can i file amended return for two prior years where she did the same?