State tax filing

I'm leaning toward full year resident of Virginia. Largely because of how it asks when you go to do a non resident return if you're sure that you worked there but did not live there at any time during the year. I feel like I would be lying if I said I lived in NY even though I was employed most of the year in Virginia. Is this  just a phrasing difference between the actual forms and how turbotax presents it, in regards to the whole "domicile" thing? What is the permanency of changing state residency for tax purposes? If I change my state of residence for tax purposes does this affect any other aspect of my life, as far as where im allowed to have a drivers licence and bank account especially, and where id be considered for in state tuition? Maybe I should just file as a NY resident.