It's a shame that your employer cannot get it done right. But, it's not that unusual. They just do what's easy for them. You probably can't convince them to withhold for WV, but it should be easy for them to stop withholding for VA. Submit form VA-4 to payroll/HR.
https://www.tax.virginia.gov/sites/default/files/taxforms/withholding/any/va-4-any.pdf
Check the box on line 3.
I certify that I am not subject to Virginia withholding. l meet the conditions
set forth in the instructions .................................................................................(check here) []
You'll need to make quarterly estimated payments to WV, if your employer will not withhold for WV.
