@davekro
Of course, no one here is an attorney, and if you are in a dicey situation, you may want to speak to an attorney.
If you are in a situation where your spouse has missed several years of returns and that jeopardizes their employment, the best thing you can do is keep open lines of communication. "Here is proof we mailed them." "Here is proof they were received." "Here is the transcript showing 2020 is on their system." "Here is proof the 2022 return is being processed for refund." And so on. So they know its all in process.
And if you are going to show them screen shots from Where's My Refund or PDFs of the transcripts, you may want to redact key items -- do they need proof of his income, or just proof that the return was processed? you might be able to (or ask permission to) redact parts that you might not want to share.
