After you file

"However changing from a joint to separate return may not be allowed in any way after the original return is filed but you can take your chances. "

 

Actually, the IRM surprisingly seems to specifically address this issue, so for the sake of anyone else reading this thread in the future, let me put it down here:

 

21.6.7.4.10 (03-18-2022): Superseding Returns
  1.  
  2. Consider the following when making a superseding adjustment:

    • Changes in irrevocable elections (e.g., Section 179, Joint to Separate)

      Note:

      A return filed after the original due date but on or before the extended due date does not constitute a superseding return in this situation.

       

    Exception:

    Use the appropriate refile blocking series when required to be associated with the original return (e.g., separate to joint)

 

That is a surprising and unexpected limitation on superceding returns that I did not realize!   I guess it is because IRC section 301.9100-2 ("Automatic Extensions") is meant to cover these situations instead?!