We have no way of knowing how the family friend specified that your refund should be sent. The simplest way to find out would be to ask the friend. Based on what you said you saw on the IRS web site, it sounds like it's being sent by direct deposit. The IRS always says to allow a few days after they send the deposit for it to show up in your bank account.
Did you give your bank routing number and account number to the family friend?
