After you file

Hello again and thank you for your help so far.

My husband really goes into the details of things and still has some questions. This is what he wrote:

 
A. The husband read something a while back that said one of these 2 things:
 
1. If you switch from married filing jointly [MFJ] one year to married filing separately [MFS] the next year
Then you can not switch back to MFJ for five years (or was it for three years ?). 
OR 
2.  Maybe it just said:  If you file MFS in one year Then you can not switch back to MFJ for five years ( or was it for three years ? ).
 
B. The wife found something that said this changed in 2015/16, and now you can switch or file either way.
 
But at the moment we can't find the statements where it says either A. or  B. above.
 
We married in 2017. The wife filed as MFS  for both her 2017 and 2018 returns. 
She extended each of these filings, using form 4868, to the following Oct. 15th.
The husband was not required to file so he did not file a return for 2017 and 2018.
 
We filed as MFJ for the 2019 return -  Is this a switch that is not allowed?  
-  from MFS?
 
Now,  we want to amend the 2017 MFS return to MFJ,  in order to get a refund.
 
Might this also be a switch that is not allowed?  - switching from either 
the  2017 MFS return?    or from the 2018 MFS  return?
 
Is amending 2017 to MFJ  against any rule,
or,  is there any problem with amending 2017 to MFJ?
 
Thank you very much for your help,