After you file

Yea I did a few different ways because I was trying to figure out why we owed jointly a total of around 3200 for Fed, I forget the State but it was basically even.

The first way I did try Joint and what you said that makes total sense what you are saying because at one point it did show me with a refund when I put my info in first I believe. Then for **bleep**s and giggles I did ours filed as separate and it showed hers with a refund 1500~ish and mine as owed 4200~ish for Fed. 

This makes a little more sense everything because then it sounds like we just each need to increase a withhold of 100-125 per paycheck with is a little more easy to deal with but still annoying that its not withheld automatically but makes sense as the W4s dont really 'talk' to each other to see what we are each making