After you file

similar to mine but I have been dealing with IRS since 2016. they told me I owe , I don't know if I owe them or not , so
I'm amending 2016 .I'm very stress dealing .it come that I owe them almost 10.000 penalty and I interest . they adjusted ,owe them up and down., last year tax they took all my return because I owe , now Virginia taxation , they wont tell  you they invaded your account. do I have to deal with payment or  continue disagree o n it.