I finally got my refund. It took almost 5 months and a call to the IRS. I think my return was in some kind of limbo state - when I called and the rep looked at it, he didn't understand why it hadn't been processed, but he put a "referral" on it to be looked at. He said that could take another 60 days, which didn't make me feel comfortable at all, since I had already been waiting 4 months. But it "only" took another 4 weeks, so 5 months total. I really think if I hadn't called, my refund would still be in limbo. Funny, I couldn't find the phone number anywhere on the IRS web site - I got it here from a helpful soul - thank you @mesquitebean
In case you are in the same boat, the phone number is [phone number removed].
