OK ... from what you said only one of you filed your return so only that return should have been amended. No matter how much you think the other person has to amend they CANNOT since they never filed an original return to begin with and since they are now included on the amended return they are considered filed and any return you send in now will be dumped in the trash. And of course that filed return will be in their tax files at the IRS just the same as the other spouse ... that is the norm when you file jointly ... the same return is registered under both taxpayers. So don't waste your time or the IRS's. Check your transcripts in a few months to see if the amended return has made it to both accounts.
