OK I restarted and tried the update one more time. this time it works. My recommendation to anyone with this problem...
1 restart the mac
2 install the updates, wait 10 minutes for the unpacking. Then install the update.
3 if the program wants you to download the updates again, cancel out; restart the computer; then redo step 2.
I still contend this is a bug that Intuit needs to fix! But it can be gotten around with hours of frustration and reading posts like this.
