It doesn't matter who the executor is. They are required by law to handle things as provided in the will if there is one, and in accordance with law. Your refusal to supply your SSN as legally required, only delays the process and costs incurred because of this, are paid out of the estate, which eats into your share. The more you delay, the less you get. Then when what you get reaches zero, the lawyer is done. He just files the paperwork showing the estate assets were eaten up in legal fees and there's nothing left to distribute. Then the lawyer gets ALL the money, and the benificiaries get nothing.
bottom line is, you're going to do what you want. You just posted here hoping to get support backing your position. Unfortunately, that's not the way the law works. We have no choice, while you do.
