Thank you very much, MaryK4. Do you know if the IRS would first go after his (solely-owned) assets or would they be more likely to put a lien on our (still jointly owned) home? I have to start separating our bank accounts now (which I still haven't figured out because I cannot afford the bills myself and he'll get angry and withhold any money from me once I do that. It's a mess.) My divorce lawyer said I have to make sure I take out my "half" of his early 401k withdrawal to ensure I get that (because he claims he was going to use that to pay his dad back, but he hasn't done that yet), plus half of whatever is left in the account after I withdraw that 401k money. (He's going to be so angry, but if I don't follow the divorce lawyer's directions this will never end.) Me taking that money out will not leave him enough to pay the $6282 he'd owe the IRS, so I'm hoping he'd be able to set up payments with them. (?) They'll probably take his unemployment checks which will seriously hurt as I cannot afford this house on my own (he has traditionally paid 75% of the bills; I have always worked from home to care for our kids, and unemployment really isn't even enough for us to scrape by so we'll be dipping into what little we have in savings. This is his fifth job loss so we were still in recovery mode when he got fired again). I'm just in a pickle and feeling really lost. I know it's complex. When it rains, it pours. I just don't want to do anything that will make this more expensive, be illegal, or come back to hurt me more than taking the big hit of getting only a $100 refund (of which he'd want $50) while *I* have to pay off the debts he should have never incurred.
