@joannal2005 - I know a lot of comments on the rules to file HOH but I don';t necessarily agree with the conclusion. It can be a complex topic and it is possible that NEITHER spouse can claim HOH. suggest running through this IRS app for each spouse as not all the facts necessary to come to the right conclusion were posted.
https://www.irs.gov/help/ita/what-is-my-filing-status
